I’m Doing This For Debbie 1/25/2018

Where Has All The Human Compassion Gone From In Society?

This post is going to be quite different. Yes, please don’t think for a single second that I have forgotten or that I am side stepping my cause here because believe me I’m not. 600,000 Americans have diseased kidneys in this country according to the National Kidney Foundation and of those 600,000 there are 300,000 in need of a kidney transplant within the next 3 years. Now since I was a little boy, I have seen our United States Of America go through many hardships and always do them alone and always survive them. I bet by now you’re wondering in your mind, “what in the world is Gerry getting around to, has he lost his marbles” No, I don’t believe I have, so here I go. Our country has always been known for taking care of itself. No matter what the crisis is be it earthquakes, hurricanes, terrorist strikes, tornadoes, or floods. Whatever happened, we stepped up and took care of our own. We gave money, food, blood, anything that was needed to get past it, survived and moved on. Well here we are, there are an estimated 323 million United States citizens here at home as of July 2016 and 300,000 of them need living donor kidneys for transplants just to survive. So since we are the country in the world who’s well known for sucking it up and pulling up our big boy and big girl panties and helping our fellow Americans during times if hardship, then where is all the help in this life or death crisis. We need donors people, donors who are willing to give a part of themselves, not their cash or bank accounts. We need Donors who are selfless not selfish and who love and I mean really love and care about the human race. We need organs donors, kidney donors to be specific to make sure that these 300,000 survive and at least get a chance at life because believe me….after they get that transplant, that’s where their real fight for life begins for them. I have belonged to a Facebook group now for about 6 months. The name of it is “Kidney Support, Dialysis, Transplant Donor And Recipients,” this is a support group where everyone goes to ask questions and share information about all the issues they have had. And if you have any thoughts that after getting a transplanted kidney that it’s a walk in the park, just go take a look. The after affects and side affect of the transplant is really pretty unbelievable but everyone on that support page agrees 100% that a transplant be it a living or deceased donor beats dialysis hands down!

My wife Debbie, she is indeed the love of my life and my very best friend. My life as far as I am concerned is meaningless without her, and she needs an “O” blood type kidney. If Debbie does not get an type “O” kidney then she is going to die, it’s really as simple as that. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure that out. But what you all don’t know is this, after Debbie Patterson and those 300,000 get their donor kidneys which believe me is the greatest gift and the most precious way anyone can show how much you truly love the human race. Life is so so precious. It must be, think about like this. Your kidneys are diseased and your going to die… period….but then God has provided man with the intelligence and means of prolonging life and setting aside death for a little while longer. God, I believe in my heart never intended for the dialysis machines to ever be invented. Think about it. God loved us so much he gave us 2 kidneys. 2 kidneys when in an average lifetime we would only need one. God knew in his infinite wisdom that we would certainly figure out a way to mess our kidneys up at some point plus it is his way to also bring people together and show that we as people still truly care and love each other when living organs are donated. Makes perfect sense to me if you think about it logically instead of financially. Yes death is inevitable at some point in life but not right now if you are a kidney disease sufferer. There is hope. Won’t you help, help somebody, if not my Debbie then Debbie and I are begging you to help somebody get off of those dialysis machines and back to a normal life.

I’m Doing This For Debbie 9/20/2017 FB Post


Inspiration can come from many places. I have had a few very bad days in a row concerning what Deb and I are having to deal with about her kidney issues. Last night on our way to watch our grandson play his football game we had a talk about some things concerning me and her disease and I told her that I have been doing a lot of thinking about a lot of things. When you drive a semi for 12 to 14 hours a day it gives you way to much time to dwell on life’s troubles and tribulations. I have broken down in the privacy of the cab of my semi tractor a number of times or the bed of my trailer and begged to God for answers and in the end I would just wipe my tears and shake my head, pick myself up and move on. You see my goal each and every day when I leave my home is to return to my home as quickly as I can so I can sit on our couch and hold her hand as we watch television or rub her feet. I used to get moved out of my seat by our cats when they were alive because they had tenure and how they loved sitting next to their momma. You see we bottle raised 4 of them at 2 weeks old when their momma died and we lost the last one just a few short weeks ago. She was 17 years old. But today, I broke down several times up in Gary Indiana, asked God what was the plan and if there was one and told him I was honestly having doubts. On my way home about 30 miles south of Gary Indiana a semi tractor trailer pulls along side of me and the drive holds up his CB microphone as he wants to talk to me. So I turn on my radio cause I am figuring I might have a problem with my truck or trailer, as in lights or tires or something like that. I said, “yes sir…how can I help you”. He says ” I just wanted you to know I fully support your sign on your tarp you have back there about your wife’s kidney issues. So we talked about it and I told him that I was totally doing all I could possibly do to find her a live donor cause it’s a 4 to 6 year wait for a deceased donor and dialysis is just not happening. I also told him that I got eliminated because of medication I take for arthritis and that I fully believed I was the one to help her. I told him that my faith was failing due to lack of reaction to my efforts. He said this….don’t ever give up faith….then another driver also said this….driver, I have seen your trailer and your tarp….tell your wife that there are prayers all over out here for her and you need to stay strong. Then out of the blue yet another different voice came out of the radio and told me that faith will be there when all else fails. Don’t ever give up ….never. I told him that he has no idea what goes on in my trailer and in the cab of my truck when I am alone….and that I will have faith until there is no need to have faith anymore. He said “Driver, you do whatever it takes for you to deal with this….we are all here for you. Well that’s all I could take….I broke!!!